Michael B. Jordan and Lori Harvey are Instagram officials. Following months of rumors, the couple published matching portraits on Sunday night.
‘Faves!’ Gabrielle Union wrote in response to the couple’s beloved photos. “Love this! Congratulations!” D-Nice added. “BEAUTIFUL,” said Malika Haqq.
But other reactions were not so friendly. In fact, many – especially those on Twitter – nullified Harvey’s dating history and mocked the 24-year-old for being a “running back” of celebrities.
It’s true that Harvey, a model (and, yes, the stepdaughter of television personality Steve Harvey) has been in previous relationships. She is linked to rapper Future, Trey Songz, Justin Combs (and later his father, Sean “Diddy” Combs); she was also engaged to Dutch footballer Memphis Depay in 2017. It is not the number of men she is linked to that makes her unique. The number actually makes her incredibly normal. What makes Harvey stand out is the aspect of celebrity.
If we ‘normalized’ appointments, it would not be a discussion about how many men Lori Harvey went out with.
– Laycee💕 (@layyccee) 11 January 2021
So they do what they always do. They shame and liberate women who are liberated in the hope that we will fall in line again and accept that we become ‘woman’ with a man with nothing but the minimum and no personality, goals or ambition to offer. Make no mistake, they are scared.
– Ambrosia ™ Freelance Hottie® (@ambrosia_omG) 11 January 2021
Is not Lori Harvey a pioneer, who you have not dated before? She can not go out with Lmao
– Queen D. (@radricadavis_) 11 January 2021
Lori Harvey has not even dated many people yet. It’s just that all the men she went out with were high profile. People need to relax
– Ann Marie Lastrassi Stan (@naledimashishi) 11 January 2021
Although the judgment is generally unfounded, the negative attention directed at Harvey raises another point: Why was her male counterpart safe from chastisement? Jordan, 33, has also been linked to other ladies, including musician Snoh Aalegra, Lupita Nyong’o and KiKi Layne.
La’Toya Hart, founder of the Heartbreak Clinic, a resource that aims to help women heal grief through courses and other tools, attributes the one-sided setback to social double standards.
“Historically, men have been celebrated when they have an extensive dating history,” Hart told Yahoo Life. ‘This is clear from the views on Michael and Lori’s dating history. Although both have a history, many people only acknowledged Lori’s past. An extensive dating history has subjected many women to ridicule and judgment; the traditional view is that women’s history should be limited or not. The reality is dating allows men to explore men and women; It takes time, experience and maturity to learn what you want in a partner. ”
Hart notes that one of the most important things a woman can do is decide what she wants in a partner and what she is willing to give up, something she praises Harvey for doing.
“Lori Harvey’s dating history over the years shows that she’s a woman who knows her worth and the value she brings to a relationship, and that she’s committed to being with someone who meets expectations,” he explains. Heart. ‘The perception may be that she’s an opportunist or someone who’ gets away ‘because of social double standards. It is now time for all women to challenge this story. Women need to feel empowered to challenge the status quo and check on the things they want. ”
Although dating has changed over the years, Hart says many people’s POVs are not yet catching up.
“The natural solution to this issue is to challenge traditional views and ensure that social dating is adapted to ensure it is more inclusive,” she says. “When a woman finds the courage to let go, the most important thing we can do is to offer love, support and encouragement without judgment.”
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