DEAR ABBY: I had a friend I would talk to every day while doing my deliveries for work. We had between six and 25 conversations a day. For months, it was never a problem. Suddenly I get blocked on her social media, and her boyfriend (my husband’s good friend) sends me a message to let me rest!
I was blinded because it was out of the blue without any warning or any discussion between her and me about the amount of time we talked.
Well, they use my Disney + service, and I feel like they’m taking advantage of me. I am not allowed to go to their house or talk to her anymore, but my husband is always welcome. I pay the Disney + out of my personal money. Would it be so bad if I removed her from my account and changed my password? – EXPRESSED IN OHIO
LOVE CONVERSATION: It was excessive to talk to someone 25 times a day. Your girlfriend had things she had to do besides keep your company on your route. It is possible that she complained to her boyfriend about it instead of telling her that it had become too much for her, and he decided to act on her behalf.
The way it was handled is deplorable. That your husband is still socializing with them while you are being wiped out is also deplorable. Because the friendship is now over and the current bill is being paid out of your personal money, I see no reason why you should not remove access to it.
DEAR ABBY: My brother says whatever he thinks, without considering anyone else’s feelings. He brags that he has no health insurance and says his doctors will see him for $ 10, whether they believe it or not. He boasts that he does not have life insurance and says that his children will have to deal with his funeral expenses when he dies. He has spent thousands on the house he recently bought, so money is not the issue.
He does not believe in giving gifts or even sending a card. He’s my only brother and sister, and over the years I’ve given him more than you can imagine. On a recent visit to look for something he asked my husband for, he started insulting me without hindrance. It increased that he called me some vulgar names. To prevent a confrontation, I entered the house. What do I do to put my brother in his place so he can stop? – SISTER OF A JERK
DEAR SISTER: Stop enduring it! Stop giving things to your brother and doing favors. Make an effort to spend less time (or any time) in his presence. It should be clear that your efforts are not appreciated, so do yourself a favor: Spend time with people you do treat, appreciate what you do for it, and retaliate.
Dear readers: I want you to know on this day of love how much I appreciate the relationship I have with you. I wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day. … WITH LOVE, ABBY
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